How much thought do you put into your words when you speak? Whether you know it up not, we’re all subconsciously ranked by those around us in accordance to the reliability of our words. Those who speak recklessly may find their relationships suffer in accordance with this act while those who hold a high standard of integrity should see their respect from others flourish.
So what does it mean to be a man of your word? The principal, in theory, is far greater than making a simple promise which is a one off declaration or assurance that guarantees a particular thing will happen. The man of your word mentality is a life choice to think carefully about all your words and following through with everything you actually say. This has a substantial effect to all those around you as you suddenly become a person of trust and reliability in a time when integrity can often be hard to come by.
This world has far too many variables as it is, without people recklessly adding weightless dialogue to the equation. Start treating your words as currency where people actually see value to your verbal contribution. To continue with this metaphor, if your words are so inflated that they resemble the Zimbabwean dollar it’s time to act. When you’re assuring somebody of something they must be able to recognise that your assurance has value and that they don’t need to second guess your intent or reliability. This has a monumental effect in both a personal and business setting.
So you’re a man of your word? You make arrangements to grab a drink with a friend this evening but suddenly find yourself in a last minute pickle as an unforeseen problem comes up. This doesn’t have to be a paradox with no way out. This is a normal situation with life and we cannot expect planning to always be so easy to uphold. But integrity requires solid dialogue on your end to reach out to those you made plans with and explain the circumstances as they actually are happening. We all know somebody who is all too keen to arrange an event but can pull out without any explanation or intent to reach out and explain their change of heart.
Why even bother with such a mindset, you ask? A man, without his word, is nothing. Not to be fucking cliche or anything but when you strip down the superficial nonsense of your social status, possessions and power then you’re just another organism on this planet flapping around your area, making grand empty gestures without any thought to your words. Have the self-control over yourself to admit when you simply can’t do it. Don’t lie to yourself, or attempt to open your mouth and make a noise because it sounds good. Think about your ability to act upon those very words and do not begin to activate those vocal cords unless you have every intent of following through.
This is something I challenge myself to do every day, and I’m far from perfect. I’m fortunate enough to have people in my life who also think this way, and I value their friendship dearly. Many people will not realise they fail to uphold such values but such a change firstly comes from discovery and I hope that some people use this article as a trigger to analyse themselves and take action. Today is a new day where you must look into yourself and decide to give your words value.
As the sun sets, regardless of your beliefs, annoying habits or disagreements with others. Honor your word. Let it be known to all that your word is iron, and that you’re not a man who engages in empty rhetoric.
The founder of Capable Men.
Currently operating personal projects while he simultaneously attempts to develop the Capable Men platform. John served five years in the British army, with a tour of duty in Afghanistan before eventually departing the forces to begin a career in the private security sector.
John attended several private protection courses dealing with security strategy, close-quarters combat training, firearms and advanced driving. This new profession took him worldwide Including the protection of government assets in South America, VIP tasks on the Côte d'Azur and security work within the French Alps.
His interests include global affairs, philosophy, hiking, sports and fitness.